Why Boundaries Are an Act of Love
A boundary is a limit or space between you and the other person; a clear place where you begin and the other person ends. Setting boundaries is not about shutting people out; it's about creating healthy and sustainable relationships.
How to Set a Boundary:
- Identify your limit: First, you must know what your limit is. What makes you feel uncomfortable or resentful?
- Communicate clearly and calmly: State your need simply and directly. Use "I" statements, such as "I need some quiet time after work," rather than "You are always so loud."
- It's okay for others to be disappointed: People may not like your boundaries, and that's okay. Your job is to take care of yourself, not to manage other people's emotions.
- Be prepared to enforce it: A boundary is meaningless if you don't stick to it. If someone continues to cross it, you may need to add a consequence, like ending the conversation or leaving the situation.